If truth be told, maintaining romance in a relationship these days may not be easy, especially because the current situation in the country is quite stifling. The average man is choked up with responsibilities and barely makes it through the day. Romance is the last thing on his mind.
While struggling to make ends meet, the average man is in no mood to indulge in lovey-dovey activities.
Irritability is at its highest.
This does not leave the woman out as she’s the one who goes to the market. She has to manage the funds she’s been given to take care of the family. With the rising cost of foodstuff and all other things, it’s not the best of times for women as well.
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Gone are the days when a woman bought foodstuffs with the money she was given for upkeep and still had some change for herself. These days, the money is not even enough to buy half of what she used to buy. So everyone is tense and emotions are high. This brings me to my gist.
I overheard my neighbour and her husband arguing the other day. The wife was complaining that the husband wasn’t showing her love yet he demanded sex every day.
The man’s voice was louder when he lamented that he pays the bills and provided food and shelter and other necessities, which is no small feat these days. I felt his pain, but I also understood the wife’s point of view. The woman didn’t feel loved and seen, yet the man thought he was showing love by being a provider.
Yes, being a provider is a lofty thing, but a woman wants to feel wanted and appreciated by her man. Sex does not always make a woman feel wanted. Sometimes it makes her feel like a sex object. Yet it’s in sex that a man feels loved and appreciated.
Interesting. Isn’t it? At the end of the day, the man and woman both want the same thing. Just in different ways.
Romance is an essential component of any healthy and fulfilling relationship. It is the fuel that keeps the fire of love burning bright. And when it is lacking, the relationship can quickly begin to feel stale and stagnant. When romance is dead in a relationship, it can feel like the passion and connection that once existed between two people has disappeared, leaving behind a sense of emptiness and dissatisfaction.
There are many reasons why romance can die in a relationship. And each couple’s situation is unique. Sometimes, the demands of everyday life can become overwhelming, causing couples to prioritise other responsibilities over nurturing their relationship. Other times, unresolved conflicts and communication issues can create a rift between partners, leading to a loss of intimacy and connection. Regardless of the specific reasons, when romance is dead in a relationship, it can be incredibly distressing for both partners.
Feelings of loneliness, sadness and frustration can begin to consume the relationship, making it difficult to find joy and fulfillment in each other’s company. This can create a downward spiral, with each partner feeling increasingly isolated and disconnected from the other.
So, how can couples revive romance in their relationship when it has died? While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, there are several strategies that couples can use to reignite the passion and intimacy in their relationship even in these trying times. It is enough that everything has become scarce commodity. Romance shouldn’t be too.
The first step in reviving romance in a relationship is to communicate openly and honestly with each other. This means being willing to express your feelings and concerns, as well as being open to hearing your partner’s perspective. By discussing the issues that have led to the decline in romance, couples can gain a better understanding of the underlying issues and work towards finding solutions together.
It’s also important for couples to make an effort to prioritise their relationship and make time for each other. This may involve setting aside dedicated time for date nights, engaging in shared activities that both partners enjoy, and finding ways to show appreciation for each other regularly. By making an effort to invest in their relationship, couples can begin to rebuild the intimacy and connection that has been lost.
Another important step in reviving romance in a relationship is to focus on rebuilding trust and empathy between partners. This may involve working through past conflicts, addressing any unresolved issues, and finding ways to support each other through the challenges of life. By creating a strong foundation of trust and understanding, couples can begin to feel more secure in their relationship and more willing to invest in rebuilding the romance that has been lost.
Finally, couples need to be willing to be vulnerable with each other and take risks in rebuilding their romance. This may involve trying new things, being open to new experiences, and being willing to take the initiative in creating moments of romance and connection. By being willing to step outside of their comfort zones, couples can begin to create new opportunities for passion and intimacy in their relationship.
While reviving romance in a relationship can be challenging, it is possible with dedication, effort and a willingness to communicate and work through issues together. By taking the time to prioritise their relationship, rebuild trust and empathy, and be vulnerable with each other, couples can begin to reignite the passion and connection that once brought them together. With commitment and mutual effort, romance can flourish once again in a relationship.
Romance is possible even now, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all remedy. Each couple needs to find what works for them. Interestingly there are lots of ways to keep romance alive that don’t necessarily involve money. Find yours.
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