Nigerian media personality, actress and commercial model, Eriata Ese, has openly advised women not to repay betrayal in marriage with infidelity.
Speaking in an Instagram video, the actress said cheating for revenge only deepens emotional pain and creates more problems.
She noted that many women remain committed to their marriages despite being hurt by their partners. However, she stressed that cheating back does not bring peace, healing or closure.
Eriata Ese said cheating in return only deepens the pain caused by betrayal and delays healing.
She added that it can also make it harder to spot warning signs in future relationships. The best form of revenge is self-growth, she said. She encouraged women to work on themselves mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.
On Instagram, she wrote:
“Women are being betrayed despite giving their best in marriage, and sadly, broken people are busy advising them to cheat back.
“Cheating back will never give you closure. The moment you do it, you return to the same painful feeling of betrayal your husband caused you. Not only that, but you also end up proving to yourself that you do not value yourself enough to heal properly. Instead, you begin expecting someone else to fill that emotional vacuum, but the truth is, they never really do.”
“It is all temporary, and in the process, you deprive yourself of true healing. You may even continue attracting the same type of men because you never healed enough to recognise a red flag disguised as green.”
“Your biggest payback is becoming a version of yourself that even he cannot reach. Physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually upgrading yourself. Know God more deeply than you used to, and take your time to choose someone ordained by God; someone who will truly love, respect, understand, value, and adore you.”
