Their Parents’ Money Mistakes Changed Them. These Nigerians Refuse to Repeat the Pattern

Most of our first lessons about money don’t come from books or financial experts, they come from watching our parents. Sometimes, those lessons we observe inspire us. Other times, they become warnings of what we never want to repeat.

For these Nigerians, growing up around certain money habits changed the way they see wealth, independence, and financial security. They share the money habits they witnessed growing up and promised not to repeat. 

My dad earned a decent salary, but he was always broke. He had a bad habit of borrowing money from people. There wasn’t a time when he wasn’t paying off one debt, and he owed relatives and friends for years. 

Growing up, I thought debt was a normal part of adulthood. Then I got my first job and realised it didn’t have to be that way. Today, I’ve built a strong savings habit and set aside at least 30% of every paycheck before I spend a kobo. Some people think I’m too strict with money, but I never want to experience the embarrassment I watched my dad go through.

My mum was generous to a fault. If she had ₦100,000, she’d give away ₦70,000 and trust that God would somehow make the rest work. That didn’t always happen. 

I remember many times when we’d struggle to pay school fees because she’d helped someone else with money. Watching that helplessly taught me that kindness without boundaries can be dangerous. I still help people, but not at the expense of my own financial stability. I will always be my number one priority.

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In my house, talking about money was almost taboo. We didn’t know how much my parents earned, owed, or saved. Then, when I was fifteen, our landlord dropped in suddenly and threatened to evict us because our rent hadn’t been paid. 

It was the first time I noticed we had money issues. That experience made me feel afraid and helpless. I became determined to understand money and how it works. I spent hours reading about investing, budgeting, and managing personal finances. Now, I save aggressively, and I’m always on the hunt to learn something new about managing my funds better. Knowledge is power, and knowing how to use your money is the best kind you can have.

Growing up, my dad would brag about finding a new opportunity that was supposedly going to make us rich. Forex one year, livestock farming the next, then a bukka another year. He’d pour money into these businesses, hoping to cash out quickly but lose most of it. Watching him constantly gamble money on shortcuts made me appreciate slow, consistent wealth-building. I don’t care if an investment sounds exciting. If it seems too good to be true, I run.

“Growing up, any unexpected expense became a family crisis. I developed money anxiety because there was never any set aside. I hated living with that uncertainty. 

The first thing I’m currently building as an adult is an emergency fund. It’s not glamorous, but knowing I can survive a few months if I lose my job or something random pops up gives me peace that my parents never had.

My mother never worked outside the home and depended completely on my father financially. Even when their marriage became miserable, she didn’t want to leave because she had no income of her own and had no idea how to start over. Watching that shaped my entire relationship with money. I don’t see financial independence as a luxury; I see it as freedom. I never want to be trapped somewhere I don’t want to be because I can’t afford to leave.

My parents showered my grandpa with gifts and money, but he was so tight-fisted that he denied himself everything. He would hide large tins of powdered milk till they went bad, and he’d eat only a small piece of meat once a week.

There’s nothing my parents didn’t try to make him loosen up. Even when his children gave him more money, he would hide the notes and refuse to spend it. When he passed away in 2018, the family shared all the things he’d been hiding were.

That taught me something. I can’t take all I’m hoarding to the next life. So, today I save, but I also budget for enjoyment. I want financial security, but I don’t want to shortchange myself by being overly cautious with money.

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