- Prophet Akinbo Shalom Kelvin has advised married men whose wives continually deny them intimacy to consider taking a second wife rather than secretly cheating, provided they have first tried communication and counselling.
- The cleric also sparked debate after insisting that “There is no scripture that says that you cannot take a second wife,” as his comments generated mixed reactions online.
Prophet Akinbo Shalom Kelvin has sparked debate online after advising married men whose wives continually deny them intimacy to consider taking a second wife instead of resorting to cheating.
The cleric made the statement during a sermon while addressing marriage, intimacy and the expectations between husbands and wives.
Akinbo criticised the advice sometimes given to married men that they should spend the entire day preparing their wives before expecting intimacy at night.
“I heard a pastor said, ‘If you want s+x, if you want intimacy with your wife at night, start preparing your wife from the morning.’ You see, these are the kinds of things some churches teach, because some pastors are simply confused about marriage. They’re confused about intimacy in marriage,” he said.
He questioned why a married man should continually have to beg, negotiate or plead with his wife for intimacy, arguing that marriage should be built on mutual understanding and responsibility.
According to him, “mutual understanding, mutual communication, mutual affection, and responsibility from both husband and wife” are necessary for a healthy marriage.
The prophet, however, warned men against secretly cheating on their wives. He advised them to first communicate with their partners, identify the problem and seek counselling where necessary.
“If your wife continually denies you, don’t secretly ch+at. Talk to her, find out what’s wrong, seek counseling where necessary. But if the problem continues, and you genuinely believe scripture permits it, then discuss the possibility of taking a second wife openly, rather than destroying marriage through adultery,” he said.
Akinbo maintained that a man could take a second wife if the situation persisted, provided the matter was discussed openly.
“There is no scripture that says that you cannot take a second wife. Show me one scripture,” he declared.
The cleric added that openly teaching such a position in churches would make women “stop all those nonsenses.”
His comments have triggered mixed reactions online, with some people questioning the practicality of his advice while others debated the place of polygamy and intimacy in marriage.
@OnyiiStesiasNwa: Thus says the witch 🪄 getting married
@ChristianaObi: If the second wife no come gree mekwe after dem marry am nko. Wetin the man go does, keep marrying till eternity okwia.
@SarahEniola: The reality about second wife be say if ur husband marry u becos of lack of s+x from the first wife, haaaaaaa U as a second wife will cry blood in that marriage when the first wife start to adjust ooo
@EmmanuelNnaemeka: I’m not against polygamy as long as you have the funds to cater for them.
@EdoBaba: Ommmooo I wish I was there, this girl toto don open, I will just put preeq inside
@EdoBaba: Irrefutable fact. If my wife denies me mekwe, our marriage is over.
@SymbiaImoesi: Who needs husband I get to give out
@RoberthaRoberts: Which part of the scripture this one dey again 🤔 Una can confuse person 🙄 😕
@ClaraFrank: Even a third sef. Cos second might also refuse
@SteveDaGoldstonOche: My neighbour that married second wife last month he’s looking like chicken that fell into palm oil now
